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Blanket statements against cis, straight, white (often male) people used to make me uncomfortable.[[MORE]]Then I got into a fight with my (cis, straight, white, male) friend. We’ve been friends for almost ten years and we’ve gone through some rough stuff together, but that night he said that he didn’t understand why I got upset with people who supported companies with homophobic CEOs or which had homophobic policies. He tried to tell me that it wasn’t a big deal, and that I was “overreacting” for being angry about the fact that things like that make it harder for people who aren’t straight—people like me—to get hired and generally have basic human respect. He didn’t “understand what my problem was.”I ended up retreating to the bathroom and pulling my hair, and out of my mouth came the words, “Fucking straight people!”Then I realized why people used blanket statements like that.That’s the story you’re not hearing when you feel uncomfortable about those blanket statements. You don’t understand that—today, yesterday, last week, their whole lives—they’ve been stepped on by those closest to them. Friends, family, loved ones, coworkers, bosses. All these cis, straight, white, male people who they love and cherish using the wrong pronouns for them, derailing them, gaslighting them, telling them “that’s just how it is,” telling them to get over it, telling them they don’t matter.When you use generalizing blanket statements, it hurts less. It isn’t your best friend who’s jokingly using slurs. It isn’t your mother who says “how gross” when a woman kisses another woman on the TV and you’re sitting right across the table. It isn’t your brother who takes photos of trans people walking down the street and then shows them to you like he’s proud of himself. It depersonalizes it, makes the people who hurt you into a nebulous group.It’s just “white people.” It’s just “cis people.” It’s just “straight men.” For one second, you can pretend that it’s no one you actually know and love.So the next time you hear someone use a blanket statement, stop and hear the pain and struggle underneath it. Think about all the personal stories of betrayal they must have. And then feel grateful, really fucking grateful, that you don’t need to use them yourself.
you know what term we should start using?
to describe stuff like asks like these
I don’t know where this is from, but…
Between this and that Toyota commercial-
Man, I hope genderfuckery of this highly attractive magnitude just INVADES popular media until privileged heteronormative cismen who unthinkingly dominate the world around them through objectification of women and shaming of homosexuality are forced to think.
Forced to think because when they see an attractive ass in panties, they can no longer instinctively flap their dicks at it and say, “I’d own that” without having to think about gender or sexuality. Torn between their habit of reflexively objectifying women and gay-shaming themselves and others, they would have no choice but to open their eyes a little wider and actually think about the people they share the world with instead of living in a neverending reel of imagery that reinforces a narrow reality where they are king.
(x) link to the Toyota commercial mentioned (at least I assume its the one they meant, it fits the point nonetheless).
"You guys know about vampires? … You know, vampires have no reflections in a mirror? There’s this idea that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. And what I’ve always thought isn’t that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. It’s that if you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves. And growing up, I felt like a monster in some ways. I didn’t see myself reflected at all. I was like, “Yo, is something wrong with me? That the whole society seems to think that people like me don’t exist? And part of what inspired me, was this deep desire that before I died, I would make a couple of mirrors. That I would make some mirrors so that kids like me might see themselves reflected back and might not feel so monstrous for it."
We live in a really weird era of feminism in which we’re not allowed to criticise any oppressive constructs/industries (marriage, beauty/make up, porn, etc) just because some women enjoy them.
I’m really sick of of opinions and discussions being shut down with “it’s not oppressive if we like it! Don’t you know that some women CHOOSE to do these things?”
Well, heck. don’t you know that men/the patriarchy have a lot to gain in keeping us content and complicit in our own oppression?
I think our generation of feminists have lost the idea of there being an oppressive structure (patriarchy) which moulds and controls the actions of individual women. So when we say “High heels are oppressive, they are a way of controlling women’s bodies, preventing us from being able to run and deforming our feet” a lot of women hear this as “Women who wear high heels are all stupid and not proper feminists. They are gullible stooges of patriarchy!” This is because Western women have been brought up in a culture that emphasises individualism and personal choices and ignores the coercive social and cultural structures and hierarchies within which those choices are made.
The criticism is not of individual women and the question is not whether individual women do or don’t choose to wear high heels. The criticism is of the patriarchal system that coerces women into wearing high heels and that denies women a genuinely free choice as to whether or not to wear high heels.
i hate the whole oppression works both way thing because like
if you go up to your boss and say “YOURE A FUCKING ASSHOLE. YOURE FIRED!!” nothing happens to your boss because you’re not in a position to do anything to her like that. if she goes “NO, YOURE FIRED.” then you’re out on your ass and unemployed. you both said the same thing, but its effects were COMPLETELY different, because of the POSITIONS OF POWER.