Oh hey there, fic idea that I had about a month ago and then completely forgot about. You were such a nice surprise to find again that I just had to write you.
Tagging this one to the kink meme, even though it wasn’t a kink meme prompt, because yeah, this one's kinda close, so hopefully the prompter would appreciate it. And also because I like gratuitously and persistently mentioning that the kink meme exists. ;)
File under: kinks that don’t particularly interest me until they happen to Rimmer. }:-)
Thank you mystery stranger for having the courage to deface these LGBTQIA posters around my friend’s school because she was too shy to do it but is now immensely grateful for the change
what even is the nonbinary person’s equivalent of the term ‘men i’d go gay/straight for’
Men I’d go androsexual for!
"androsexual" and "gynesexual" are THE MOST USEFUL FUCKING WORDS I’M TELLING YOU measuring your sexuality in terms of your own gender as well as your partners’ is so last century
Every single time I check the LJ kink meme and get held up by the “you must be 18 or over to continue to this page” button, I mutter “yes, I am over 18” in a bad Scouse accent.
Hi there! I was wondering if there was anything on here about Press Gang (I’ve checked the tags & FAQ) - I’ve not watched it in a couple of years, so was wondering if anyone had revisited in light of the multitude valid criticisms of recent work/if you know of anything written about it? I’ve only seen a few people who’ve started watching it now say things like ‘Moffat wrote this show which is awesome in all these ways therefore he is not sexist/misogynist’ (even though it’s 20+ years old).
I don’t think so. I’ve never seen it and I don’t think SH has either. But even if it isn’t sexist, it doesn’t mean that Moffat isn’t sexist now. He might have had a less sexist phase in the past, but that’s obviously over.
Once again I’m painfully reminded that it was trendy to be non-sexist, non-racist, generally-not-a-dick etc in the late 80s/early 90s. And now that it’s instead trendy to be an “edgy”, “post-sexist/post-racist”, “politically incorrect” douchecanoe, certain TV writers have dropped that whole “not punching down” idea like it’s carrying plague. *cough*RedDwarf*cough*
Male characters are hardly ever given beyond-basic-grunting-masculinities characteristics, either, cus men are pretty shy too. So you don’t tend to get non-binary men, men unable to be self-sufficient, men who doing the online shopping order, men running out of loo roll because the online shopping order was confusing, men learning about consent and being grossed out by lads mags, men actually depressed not just being a badass fucked up mysterious person etc. which are all obviously common traits but not hugely presented, especially in TV/film. (although fanfiction finds it easier to write men as full people than women, for sure and depressingly, cus it’s how they come in canon, albeit not very diversely at all) It’s better, in terms of spread because there’s more men in fiction as a rule but still self consciously shit as a ‘how to person’ guide, given how many of us rely on fiction for it.
Even the most gleeful Tumblr misandrist (that’s not criticism, I love you guys) would agree this is super important for trans men and men of colour and I know lots of unhappy people who identify as men across a broad spectrum who hardly become literary tropes, albeit the fantasy Gary Stu (stoic, tragic, mysteriously powerful) is lauded (see: The Road et al) rather than derided as per Mary Sues. You’re more likely to pass a GCSE with a strong silent detective who has a difficult relationship to his family and a grizzled outlook than a woman with a career in PR who’s training for a kickboxing tournament, which is depressing as fuck given only the first one of those is a ridiculous, lazy cardboard cutout. But that doesn’t make it representative to the 99.999999998% of people who don’t fit that trope. Everything sucks, basically.
And tbh characters who don’t identify as either men or women are so rare it’s ridiculous.
To conclude: never let anyone read you poetry about the perfect binary-gender individual because life is short and brutal enough. And y’know, protect teenage girls at all cost 4 life.
a reminder to please please please let me know if i’ve been gross or something because forreal
the struggle to unlearn shit is real as fuck and i make mistakes
i’m not perfect and i still do gross shit and i’m working on being a better person and creating safe places for people
i see so many posts that are like “ahhh a friend of mine did something gross and i don’t know how to tell them” like if i’m ever that person please let me know
if one more person asks where the RD fandom is i s2g i’m gonna fucking make them aware of our presence in a friendly and welcoming manner then possibly recommend them a few good blogs to follow
Can we just, like, set it up so that this posts automatically to the RD tag about once every two days? Might save a lot of lost lambs a lot of time. ;)
ngl though it’s kind of hard to work out “where” the fandom “is” from the tag o.O it’s just, kind of, you know, where all of us are? which isn’t all that often in the tag