you are not fat
you have fat
you also have fingernails
you are not fingernail
This is something everyone needs to remember.
you have fat
you are fat
fat is not an indicator of your worth,
you are fat
and you are also wonderful
One of the most dangerous things about forgiveness is that it undercuts your ability to let go of your pent-up emotions. How can you acknowledge your anger against a parent whom you’ve already forgiven? Responsibility can go only one of two places: outward, onto the people who have hurt you, or inward, into yourself. Someone’s got to be responsible. So you may forgive your parents but end up hating yourself all the more in the exchange.
I also noticed that many clients rushed to forgiveness to avoid much of the painful work of therapy. They believed that by forgiving they could find a shortcut to feeling better. A handful of them “forgave,” left therapy, and wound up sinking even deeper into depression or anxiety.
Several of these clients clung to their fantasies: “All I have to do is forgive and I will be healed. I will have wonderful mental health, everybody is going to love everybody, we’ll hug a lot, and we’ll finally be happy.” Clients all too often discovered that the empty promise of forgiveness had merely set them up for bitter disappointment. Some of them experienced a rush of well-being, but it didn’t last because nothing had really changed in the way they felt or in their family interactions.
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)
Responsibility can go only one of two places: outward, onto the people who have hurt you, or inward, into yourself.
My mum, regarding Chris Barrie, during the big Bank Holiday repeat run on Dave: “Oh, gosh, isn’t he just a brilliant actor? I’d never really noticed!”
holy shit ma’am what did you think I’ve been trying to tell you for the last nineteen years >.<
I just learned the term “idfic,” and I’ve never identified (haha) with a word so much. That’s it. That’s how I write.
Whoo, interesting. You mean there are other reasons someone would want to write? ;)
If Ricky Gervais shouts “mong” in a forest, over and over again, and there’s no Americans there to tell him he’s a genius…is that then offensive? I don’t know.
Stewart Lee (via thehellofitall)
Let’s play a game.
Type the following words into your tags box, then post the first automatic tag that comes up.
you: #650 if you count Rimmerworld
also: #also it’s such a big fandom
what: #what do you mean I killed him cha cha cha?
when: #when your favourite character is arnold rimmer you know you’re screwed
why: #why should the person who’s been hurt have to be the bigger person?
how: #HOW BAD COULD IT BE
look: #Look at that smarm
because: #because I’ll be in my quarters covered in maple syrup
never: #It’s never beer it’s always wine What do you want on your cornflakes darling oh I’ll ‘ave some wine please
FUCKING FANTASTIC. I applaud you, Sting.
As for mine, they’re just embarrassing.
you: #(spoilers: everyone is privy to such because there’s a link to it on my main page if you’re really curious)
also: #(see also: the chris barrie’s face tumblr)
what: #(does it? really? that’s what my subconscious seemed to think so i’ll go with it)
when: #(until you realise that what that actually means is i’ll be the age he was when he started on red dwarf)
why: #(why am i still tagging)
how: #(which somehow feels important)
look: #looking at you IRL friends
because: #(because red dwarf is the same age as me)
never: #I HAVE NEVER BEEN PROUDER
From this we surmise three things: 1) the first automatic tag is generally the most recent, 2) I post slightly too much fanwank, 3) STOP USING BRACKETS FECKLES YOU KNOB.
You didn’t know? That’s how quality literature happens. :)