Whatever the hell they are, they're up right now and pointed at you, buddy.

zetablarian:

stillstuckinthelabyrinth:

nakedly:

you are not fat
you have fat 
you also have fingernails 
you are not fingernail 

This is something everyone needs to remember.

Alternatively:

you have fat
you are fat
fat is not an indicator of your worth,
your intelligence,
your kindness,
your beauty
you are fat
and you are also wonderful

One of the most dangerous things about forgiveness is that it undercuts your ability to let go of your pent-up emotions. How can you acknowledge your anger against a parent whom you’ve already forgiven? Responsibility can go only one of two places: outward, onto the people who have hurt you, or inward, into yourself. Someone’s got to be responsible. So you may forgive your parents but end up hating yourself all the more in the exchange.

I also noticed that many clients rushed to forgiveness to avoid much of the painful work of therapy. They believed that by forgiving they could find a shortcut to feeling better. A handful of them “forgave,” left therapy, and wound up sinking even deeper into depression or anxiety.

Several of these clients clung to their fantasies: “All I have to do is forgive and I will be healed. I will have wonderful mental health, everybody is going to love everybody, we’ll hug a lot, and we’ll finally be happy.” Clients all too often discovered that the empty promise of forgiveness had merely set them up for bitter disappointment. Some of them experienced a rush of well-being, but it didn’t last because nothing had really changed in the way they felt or in their family interactions.

Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)

Responsibility can go only one of two places: outward, onto the people who have hurt you, or inward, into yourself.

o.O

My mum, regarding Chris Barrie, during the big Bank Holiday repeat run on Dave: “Oh, gosh, isn’t he just a brilliant actor? I’d never really noticed!”

holy shit ma’am what did you think I’ve been trying to tell you for the last nineteen years >.<

zetablarian:

I just learned the term “idfic,” and I’ve never identified (haha) with a word so much. That’s it. That’s how I write.

Whoo, interesting. You mean there are other reasons someone would want to write? ;)

Couldn’t find much in the way of a definition for the term, but… the Id Vortex… relevant to what you were saying to me yesterday, norwegianpornfaerie?

norwegianpornfaerie:

fecklesheckleshacklesschmeckles:

norwegianpornfaerie:

fecklesheckleshacklesschmeckles:

andimeantittosting:

janamelie:

Regarding Andimeantittosting’s tags - if you want to elaborate, here or on LJ, please do. :)

Oh lordy, well, I’ll give it a shot. So, reasons why Rimmer should never have been assigned to repair the drive plate, and so the accident is mostly the JMC’s fault, hopefully without woobiefying Rimmer too much:

First off, I’m working on the theory that given that the employer has by far the most power in dictating working conditions, naturally the greatest part of the responsibility for health & safety also falls on their shoulders, unless an employee is blatantly disregarding safety procedures. […]

The defence rests! Round of goddamn applause. XD […]

I can’t remember if it’s in the books, or if I read/heard it somewhere else, or if it’s my own idea, but what I’ve come to assume is that while Rimmer DID fail to seal the drive plates correctly, the drive plates did not cause the radiation leak. […]

Deffo there’s a bit in the novel where a series of tiny incompetent actions from other crew-members leads to nobody noticing the unsealed drive plate, therefore it reaches the stage where it becomes a critical radiation leak. (F’rinstance, a warning light flashes on a console where the officer has just spilt a coffee, so the officer assumes the light is malfunctioning, rather than raising the alarm that the plate isn’t sealed.)

THANK YOU. Yes, that’s exactly what I was (somewhat mis)remembering. That, for me, was the missing piece that made it all fit together: Of course it’s not Rimmer’s fault that the entire crew dies - as is pointed out in Justice, only someone as self-loathing and paranoid as Rimmer himself could come to that conclusion. However, he WAS part of the general incompetence, apathy and lack of proper work ethics which resulted in the accident. IMO, this isn’t about management assigning a dangerous task to one person and then blaming him when he gets it wrong; it’s a statement about the general culture of blame-shifting failure to take responsibility in businesses. If just ONE person had either done their job properly OR put some extra effort in, hundreds of lives would have been spared.

I do love Grant/Naylor.

*ahem*

Not that it’s a hobby-horse of theirs or anything. ;)

(Source: bigmick284)

norwegianpornfaerie:

fecklesheckleshacklesschmeckles:

andimeantittosting:

janamelie:

Regarding Andimeantittosting’s tags - if you want to elaborate, here or on LJ, please do. :)

Oh lordy, well, I’ll give it a shot. So, reasons why Rimmer should never have been assigned to repair the drive plate, and so the accident is mostly the JMC’s fault, hopefully without woobiefying Rimmer too much:

First off, I’m working on the theory that given that the employer has by far the most power in dictating working conditions, naturally the greatest part of the responsibility for health & safety also falls on their shoulders, unless an employee is blatantly disregarding safety procedures.

Secondly, the argument that I think has been made the most, think about the work technicians are supposed to do on Red Dwarf - their most important duty is making sure the vending machines are stocked and they unblock chicken soup nozzles. Okay, at one point I think they have to repair the circuits on a door that’s on the fritz, but for the most part we’re talking incredibly simple stuff, and for all of it, we’re talking really unimportant stuff, that if not done will at most cause minor inconvenience. So why on earth would they assign one of the lowest ranking technicians to repair something as critical as a drive plate? Something that, if not done properly, endangers the lives of everyone on board? It’s not in Rimmer’s job description, or even anywhere near it, as far as I can tell.

And okay, so yes, the faulty repair was directly caused by Rimmer’s incompetence, but why on earth was someone so incompetent assigned to fix something so critical and so dangerous? It’s not like Rimmer’s incompetence is a secret - it’s right there in his file that he “has more teeth than brain cells”, that he should be given the jobs that aren’t worth doing. He has been with the company his entire adult life and has managed to move up exactly one rank. Literally everyone, including anyone who might be in a position to assign him a task, knows that he is incompetent. Whether or not he should have the job if he’s so useless at it is inconsequential the moment they put everyone’s lives at risk by handing him a task they had every reason to know he wasn’t up to.

Also, if we’re assuming the accident took place within a few days of Lister going into stasis, then we have to add in the fact that Rimmer is clearly not in a great place mentally or emotionally - if I’m handing out a task that could kill everyone on board the ship, I’m not going to give it to the guy who is so riddled with anxiety he literally collapsed a few days(?) ago. If he’s coming back to work so soon after that, I’m going to make sure he’s feeling okay and able to focus properly before I go assigning him a task that critical.

Finally, technicians work in pairs. Even when they are doing something as simple as using a pipe cleaner on a chicken soup nozzle. But Rimmer’s partner is Lister, who has been put into stasis, and he has clearly not been assigned a new partner for the duration, which means he’s doing all his tasks with no help and with no second set of eyes to double-check his work, which is supposed to have even for something as simple as stocking the vending machines. So why are they picking just him, instead of an intact team, to do this very important repair?

Basically, someone with probably considerably more power than Rimmer (remember he’s the second lowest ranking crewman on the ship, and technically the lowest with Lister in stasis), thought it was a good idea to assign a task that if done incorrectly would cause a radiation leak that would kill over a thousand people (I go by the number given in Justice), and that is clearly outside a technician’s usual purview, to a known incompetent, who was also having a mental health crisis, and who was lacking his usual backup. And then, when something inevitably went wrong, instead of sending someone competent to try to fix the emergency, as far as we can tell, the captain used this time to berate Rimmer, who should never have been given the assignment in the first place, for doing it wrong.

And then everyone died.

#I just have a lot of feels about this okay #and employers blaming accidents caused by working conditions on employees is a hot button for me

The defence rests! Round of goddamn applause. XD

noting in passing that I always assumed there was a bunch of “third technicians” and a bunch of “second technicians” (c.f. Z Shift in the books), rather than that Lister and Rimmer were the only one of each, but then Lister saying he ranked 169th out of 169 is a bit eh idk

I can’t remember if it’s in the books, or if I read/heard it somewhere else, or if it’s my own idea, but what I’ve come to assume is that while Rimmer DID fail to seal the drive plates correctly, the drive plates did not cause the radiation leak. Which makes the most sense, if you ask me; even if you assume that the ship’s most capable person is assigned the task - or an extremely capable team, for that matter - the idea that the safety of the ship’s crew could be compromised by the failure of ONE specific thing is preposterous. I realize that several characters claim that this is what caused the leak, but none of them are particularly reliable. 

Isn’t this mentioned in the books? I’m so sure I’ve read it somewhere…

Deffo there’s a bit in the novel where a series of tiny incompetent actions from other crew-members leads to nobody noticing the unsealed drive plate, therefore it reaches the stage where it becomes a critical radiation leak. (F’rinstance, a warning light flashes on a console where the officer has just spilt a coffee, so the officer assumes the light is malfunctioning, rather than raising the alarm that the plate isn’t sealed.)

(Source: bigmick284)

andimeantittosting:

janamelie:

Regarding Andimeantittosting’s tags - if you want to elaborate, here or on LJ, please do. :)

Oh lordy, well, I’ll give it a shot. So, reasons why Rimmer should never have been assigned to repair the drive plate, and so the accident is mostly the JMC’s fault, hopefully without woobiefying Rimmer too much:

First off, I’m working on the theory that given that the employer has by far the most power in dictating working conditions, naturally the greatest part of the responsibility for health & safety also falls on their shoulders, unless an employee is blatantly disregarding safety procedures.

Secondly, the argument that I think has been made the most, think about the work technicians are supposed to do on Red Dwarf - their most important duty is making sure the vending machines are stocked and they unblock chicken soup nozzles. Okay, at one point I think they have to repair the circuits on a door that’s on the fritz, but for the most part we’re talking incredibly simple stuff, and for all of it, we’re talking really unimportant stuff, that if not done will at most cause minor inconvenience. So why on earth would they assign one of the lowest ranking technicians to repair something as critical as a drive plate? Something that, if not done properly, endangers the lives of everyone on board? It’s not in Rimmer’s job description, or even anywhere near it, as far as I can tell.

And okay, so yes, the faulty repair was directly caused by Rimmer’s incompetence, but why on earth was someone so incompetent assigned to fix something so critical and so dangerous? It’s not like Rimmer’s incompetence is a secret - it’s right there in his file that he “has more teeth than brain cells”, that he should be given the jobs that aren’t worth doing. He has been with the company his entire adult life and has managed to move up exactly one rank. Literally everyone, including anyone who might be in a position to assign him a task, knows that he is incompetent. Whether or not he should have the job if he’s so useless at it is inconsequential the moment they put everyone’s lives at risk by handing him a task they had every reason to know he wasn’t up to.

Also, if we’re assuming the accident took place within a few days of Lister going into stasis, then we have to add in the fact that Rimmer is clearly not in a great place mentally or emotionally - if I’m handing out a task that could kill everyone on board the ship, I’m not going to give it to the guy who is so riddled with anxiety he literally collapsed a few days(?) ago. If he’s coming back to work so soon after that, I’m going to make sure he’s feeling okay and able to focus properly before I go assigning him a task that critical.

Finally, technicians work in pairs. Even when they are doing something as simple as using a pipe cleaner on a chicken soup nozzle. But Rimmer’s partner is Lister, who has been put into stasis, and he has clearly not been assigned a new partner for the duration, which means he’s doing all his tasks with no help and with no second set of eyes to double-check his work, which is supposed to have even for something as simple as stocking the vending machines. So why are they picking just him, instead of an intact team, to do this very important repair?

Basically, someone with probably considerably more power than Rimmer (remember he’s the second lowest ranking crewman on the ship, and technically the lowest with Lister in stasis), thought it was a good idea to assign a task that if done incorrectly would cause a radiation leak that would kill over a thousand people (I go by the number given in Justice), and that is clearly outside a technician’s usual purview, to a known incompetent, who was also having a mental health crisis, and who was lacking his usual backup. And then, when something inevitably went wrong, instead of sending someone competent to try to fix the emergency, as far as we can tell, the captain used this time to berate Rimmer, who should never have been given the assignment in the first place, for doing it wrong.

And then everyone died.

#I just have a lot of feels about this okay #and employers blaming accidents caused by working conditions on employees is a hot button for me

The defence rests! Round of goddamn applause. XD

noting in passing that I always assumed there was a bunch of “third technicians” and a bunch of “second technicians” (c.f. Z Shift in the books), rather than that Lister and Rimmer were the only one of each, but then Lister saying he ranked 169th out of 169 is a bit eh idk

(Source: bigmick284)

If Ricky Gervais shouts “mong” in a forest, over and over again, and there’s no Americans there to tell him he’s a genius…is that then offensive? I don’t know.

—Stewart Lee (via thehellofitall)

To all the Tumblr users who tend to use tags very liberally:

thejadedkiwano:

Let’s play a game.

Type the following words into your tags box, then post the first automatic tag that comes up.

andimeantittosting:

you: #650 if you count Rimmerworld

also: #also it’s such a big fandom

what: #what do you mean I killed him cha cha cha?

when: #when your favourite character is arnold rimmer you know you’re screwed

why: #why should the person who’s been hurt have to be the bigger person?

how: #HOW BAD COULD IT BE

look: #Look at that smarm

because: #because I’ll be in my quarters covered in maple syrup

never: #It’s never beer it’s always wine What do you want on your cornflakes darling oh I’ll ‘ave some wine please

FUCKING FANTASTIC. I applaud you, Sting.

As for mine, they’re just embarrassing.

you: #(spoilers: everyone is privy to such because there’s a link to it on my main page if you’re really curious)
also: #(see also: the chris barrie’s face tumblr)
what: #(does it? really? that’s what my subconscious seemed to think so i’ll go with it)
when: #(until you realise that what that actually means is i’ll be the age he was when he started on red dwarf)
why: #(why am i still tagging)
how: #(which somehow feels important)
look: #looking at you IRL friends
because: #(because red dwarf is the same age as me)
never: #I HAVE NEVER BEEN PROUDER

From this we surmise three things: 1) the first automatic tag is generally the most recent, 2) I post slightly too much fanwank, 3) STOP USING BRACKETS FECKLES YOU KNOB.

You didn’t know? That’s how quality literature happens. :)
B… b… but why would other people enjoy reading about the stupid weird things I like…?? ;)